Wednesday, 31 July 2013

Feeling hot hot hot

Assalaamualaikum Wa Rahmtullahi Wa Barakatuh,

The most awaited time of year, the big finally here..well it's already been here for about 23days, but you get the drift.. Its Ramadan! <3

To be completely honest, I like ramadan but I am pretty scared of it too ;) Not eating isn't a big deal for me, but this year its proving to be very difficult at times, but surprisingly easy at times aswell! Weird, right?! Well if your like me, you'll realise that ramadan is everyone's epiphany moment, which is alhamdulilah good! But we shouldn't wait for ramadan to make the CHANGE, it should be a step towards progress throughout the year although, maybe, perhaps, it's easier to make more bigger changes IN ramadan, it's not THE ONLY TIME. I am aware some people choose to make ramadan their change-a-year. Which isn't ..good.. Really folks, to change once in the year then go back to your old habits straight after is not the point of ramadan! I mean i am not disregarding the fact that it is hard to keep the changes what with everyone else doing the same thing + its not as easy cause' you don't have the holy feeling.  We need to keep the faith alive! Don't let ramadan be your one-hit-wonder! Make it a -change-forever InshaAllah! I mean if it were that you changed in ramadan and alhamdulilah kept it that way that's different! That's abso-fab-lutely Great!

There's so much goodness in ramadan, not just the opportunity to change but also the opportunity to gain more or bigger reward. You know pretty much this WHOLE ramadan has been thee most hottest ramadan EVEER! It's like wow! Allah really wants to test us, Alhamdulilah! And InshaAllah we all have been keeping it up and fasting! I was in the car one time during the hot day, and I was thinking about how Abu Bakr (RA) and Aisha (RA) used to like fasting in the heat:

“…And from the acts of worship whose reward is multiplied during the heat is fasting, and this is because of the thirst that one experiences in the mid-day heat.
This is why Mu’adh bin Jabal expressed regret on his deathbed that he would no longer experience this mid-day thirst, as did other early Muslims.
And it was related that Abu Bakr would fast in the summer and not fast in the winter, and ‘Umar advised his son ‘Abdullah on his deathbed: “Try to obtain the characteristics of faith,” and the first one he mentioned was fasting in the intense summer heat.
And al-Qasim bin Muhammad said that ‘A’ishah would fast in the intense heat, and he was asked: “What drove her to do this?” He replied: “She would take advantage of the days before death.” And some of the righteous women would choose the hottest days and fast them, saying: “If the price is low, everyone will buy,” meaning that she wanted to do those actions that only a few were capable of due to how hard it was to do them, and this is indicative of the high aspirations these women had.

SubhanAllah! Look at that! Allah gave us the oppurtunity to gain MORE reward! Wow, that's amazing. Some of us may have seen it as ' OMG why is it so hot?! And WE HAVE TO FAST' But come on sisters, its not why or have, it' ALHAMDULILAH! We are blessed with so much and we should take advantage of it rather than complain! This is reminder to myself first, then to anyone else reading :)
Fasting is a pillar of Islam. It's hard but it's also really beneficial, it reminds us to be
1) Grateful for what we have
2) To realise the worth of food
3) To bring us closer to Allah (SWT)
4) And strengthen our faith

WOW, FIVE ultimate cool reasons to fast! Not only in ramadan but as optional fasts aswell. Stuck on what optional fasts mean? By optional I mean the sunnah fasts, the fasts our beloved prophet (SAW) used to keep, that are not obligatory. These are mon & thursdays. The 13,14,15 of the islamic month. By Islamic month I mean the months in our islamic calendar, google it and take down the 13,14,15 of each islamic month and insert into your normal calender!

The six days of shawwal (The day after the first Eid- the 6 days begin)
The first ten days of dhul hijjah
Arafah day (those who do not go hajj)
Muharram (9th day + 10th day)
Some days of Sha'baan

- You can research these days on google to find out exact dates for your calendar! I highly suggest you try your best to do atleast some of them! It's so easy to do it, because its not a whole month! Only a couple of days! InshaAllah you get alot of reward, there are hadiths regarding these days, so inshAllah check it out if you want evidence. I don't have alot of time right now, so please excuse me not putting the hadiths up here :)

P.S SORRY ITS BEEN SO LONG! I've been busy! :)


Sunday, 7 July 2013

Marry me, Romeo!

Assalaamualaikum Wa Rahmtullahi Wa Barakatuh,

My beloved sisters <3 It has been so long! I am dearly sorry for the delayed post! To be truthful with you, me and my whole family have been concentrating on my mum. In my previous post I mentioned she was ill, so we have been visiting her in hospital :)

Anyway, I decided I would post about teenage marriages! From some feedback, I have discovered it is a topic of interest. Which luckily I am informed about! During my college year, I discovered the 'marriage phase' where teenagers who are practicing fall into the trap of halal marriage. Or 'Dating Marriage' Alhamdulilah, sisters marriage is good! In no way am I discouraging you not to marry! BUT I am enocouraging you to THINK about the word marriage. What does it entail?

-A Husband
-Looking after in-laws (mostly cultural)
-No longer being treated like a baby by your mummy

And many more!  Marriage is good. The other aspects of marriage aren't BAD, its just takes maturity and understanding, which if not considered can lead to failures in marriage. It is half of your deen, do you think getting half of your deen is going to be breeze?There are sunny days + rainy days. Not every day will be a Disney movie! I understand sisters, you want to do it the right way but rushing it CERTAINLY is not the right way! If you find a potential guy at a younge age say 17-19 consider it as a maybe, NOT DEFO. Find out what you need, and ASAP tell your parents. The problem is nowadays, teens get stuck into the gritty stuff of getting to know the person way too much, BEFORE telling the parents, which often is a big problem! Wanna know why? Because parents dont always agree with teenagers! No suprise! We as teenagers, sometimes get caught in the clouds, thats why our parents ARE there to knock us out of them. We need mahrams there for it to be halal! You getting to know the guy half way, then telling your parents isn't exactly halal. Talking on the phone, unnecessary texting is not permitted in Islam! Yeah, with a mahram it is fine! And  perhaps minimal conversation about something URGENT is also fine. But sisters, ask yourself this if you are caught in a sticky situation,

- Would I let my parents see this conversation?
-Would Allah be happy with me, for doing this?
- Is this uneccessary, i.e could I do this another time (INFRONT OF A MAHRAM!)

Moving on to the 'crazy phase'. Sisters, sometimes forget that marriage isn't LIFE or DEATH. Allah is the best of planners! Calm down! Sometimes we do get lonely, but who is with us? EVERYWHERE? and Anywhere? ALLAH! Concentrate on your deen, sister! It is far better for you, if Allah has willed! All in good time, if you meet your spouse tomorrow Alhamdulilah! If not, doesn't matter carry on! Be strong and emerse yourself into Islam. Sister, only there can you can find rest in your heart. The quote Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest(13:28)

Really does come into mind. The last phase is 'Proposal Phase'. Where teenagers get kinda OB about any guy, that could PERHAPS propose to them. Waiting for that guy to come up to their brother and inform them that they are interested in their sister.. Ahh, funny isn't it? But its like a fairy tale wish, only halal version. Sisters don't worry! Whoever is gonna propose..or ...approach you.... will! 
IN..ALL...GOOD...TIME! Dont get into the whole, whoever proposes-should-instantly-be-accepted! I understand it is not right to reject anyone for no reason. But you should consider it! Don't rush, tell your parents then see if they are right for you! It is flattering, but marriage is serious! Don't treat it like it is nothing!

Calm, peace, never worry! Three words, about marriage -STICK with you for life! Sisters <3 love, for all of you! But sometimes we get a lil crazy, dont we? 

InshaAllah this was useful! And kinda humorous! It is what I have witnessed at college! And please, my dear sisters, do not take offence! Try and stay calm, be happy! Never lose faith inshaAllah! Wait for your bearded prince, and inshaAllah you may all live in the kingdoms of Jannat Al Firdous!