Friday, 23 August 2013

LookInTheMirror

Assalaamualaikum Wa Rahmtullahi Wa Barakatuh,

(Before we start my awesome post, let me just say a something.
Ive been thinking about what kind of a blogger I am... Or known to be. To be honest, and i'm trying to hold honesty dear to my heart, sisters, I am not a political activist or a serious writer...I just write and if people wanna read, they do, and that's cool because my writing isn't a persuasion article or forcing anyone to believe what I believe, it's me probably advising myself or my friend in cute lil café...)

What are people known by? Their appearance? Their intelligence? Their wealth?
Sometimes people are far too caught up in labels.
Most of the time it's girls that get caught up in that whirlwind.
The first label everyone tends to get is the appearance.
Our outward appearance means a lot, maybe that's why we get a bit obsessed. :S

For guys, or brothers... it's more about character right? But for girls how you look on the outside, most of the time- is the first impression a person gets. But lets keep in mind sisters if the lights are on and no ones home, people tend to wander off. The bigger picture here, is sisters is that we should beautify our inside as well as our outside.

First off beautifying your outside doesn't mean slapping makeup no it means having water, moisturizing, daily cleansing, eating nutritious food, going gym or exercising regularly, taking vitamins and so on these will help you have a youthful glow and make you more beautiful than make up could ever do.

You know I can tell you that we all go through a phase in our life where looking nice, is the most important thing. Most specifically with makeup.Everyone wants to feel pretty, but sometimes there's a price to beauty.

You shouldnt make dressing up your entire life. I mean I've come to realise that it comes to no good. When you spend those five-ten minutes applying mascara and topliner you could be reading Qur'an or memorising a surah.

When we get into the obsession, we tend to forget the value of money, carelessly buying anything and everything. So try to find alternative ways to spending money like reusing clothes or changing scarf styles. Buying plain T's that can be worn again and again, using cardigans as sweaters etc.

Aswell as that we should be mindful that we are not dressing for a catwalk and therefore should not take as long as an hour to get ready! Inshaallah we should struggle to improve this but even so we should leave time to get ready.

Now on to beautifying the inside. The only way you can do this is, like beautifying the outside requires face masks, daily cleansing, moisturizing and constant care, we also need to do the same for our inside. Like praying sunnah prayers, a weekly tahajjud, reading Quran, giving charity, being pleasant and helping others. If you try your best to keep up with these habits InshaAllah you should have a beautiful inside in a jiffy!

Okay so I think those are the basics! Just don't go all cray cray with looking nice. Im not going to go into the debate about wearing makeup because everyone has their own opinions and essentially its up to the individual. I personally think its fine to wear some makeup maybe like blusher or eyeliner, makeup that looks very simplistic. Just dont overdo it.

Waslaam

Saturday, 3 August 2013

Missing puzzle pieces?

Assalaamualaikum Wa Rahmtullahi Wa Barakatuh,

From recent feedback I have discovered you lovelies would like to know about how you can fit into western society. Well excuse the word fitting more like blending-in-but-don't-lose-yourself-to-the-world kinda thing, if you know what I mean. Before I ramble on. I would like to first thank you all for giving me feedback! Its great to know what you want to hear about! So JazakAllah Khairan, me beauties <3, also I have recently started up a YouTube where I will be doing more talks about lots of other Islamic issues or problems! I will also InshaAllah be doing book reviews, hijab tutorials and more! Once I think of it! I have uploaded my Welcome Video so check it out, InshaAllah! Sorry for the formalities, but now that's over lets get a moving!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kyj6fr9JKv8 (Thats the youtube link!)

Adaption thats a hard word isn't it? Well not literally, its adapt with 'ion' on the end, I mean adaption the meaning. How do you adapt? Do you change inorder to fit in? I mean Darwin's theory of evolution works with that, survival of the fittest. Changing so you can live. Developing or behaving a certain way. Does that mean we follow western culture? No no no! It does not mean that!

We dont have to be anything we aren't
We dont have to conform
Those that do, have made that decision themselves

We be muslims. Simply as!

We go about our lives, as we do. Lemme break it down. We are Muslims but we live in a western society, this means we need to keep our faith but try to fit in. We can't force people to be like us or tell them that their country has no proper justice system, we need to show them through our character and actions not our coercion. Who better to follow than our beloved nabi (SAW) he was the kindest of them all, MashaAllah!

"It was by the mercy of Allah that you were gentle with them (O, Mohammad) for if you had been harsh and hard of heart they would of dispersed from around you. So pardon them and pray forgiveness for them and consult with them in the affair" (Quran 3:159)


Conduct is an important part of fitting into society. How you behave with non-muslims is important, you represent Islam wherever you are, so you need to do show others that Islam is beautiful. The stereotypical views of muslim are often show in the media, but that doesn't mean we cant change people's opinons. If you have a non-muslim neighbour, why don't you offer to bring them food one day? Kindness is all it takes.

Also it means you need to obey the law in the country. Unless it opposes Islam in some way. You dont commit crimes or do anything that would get you into trouble. Dont go committing crimes now okay! :)
Many scholars have said that from certain surahs such as the one below proves that when a muslim enters a country they have made a promise to follow the law, therefore they should keep the promise. (UNLESS IT OPPOSES ISLAMIC LAW)

 “And fulfill the Covenant to Allah when you have covenanted, and break not the oaths after you have

   confirmed them.” [Sûrah al-Nahl: 91] 

Some parts of Western culture isn't so bad for instance western fashion- Abayas nowadays have a funky look, which is not bad as you can still have style while being modest.

But not too much westernizing, we wanna fit in but still be able to show people Islam and its beauty. We shouldn't follow too much of western culture like going out alot, or dressing up too much you know? Everything needs moderation! We should make time for our prayers, and tilawaat, sunnah fasting, islamic lectures and helping our parents, ON top of studying, and socialising, and yada yada.

Okay so thats it for now! JazakAllah Khairan for reading, hopefully it was useful!
Wasalaam.