Monday, 25 November 2013

A Brave New World

Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,

I would like to tell you sisters the reason for my delayed post is because I have been extremely busy! So busy you might want to ring Obama and tell him I don't have time to talk to him! Yes. You know. I have been busy.....eating pizzas. ;) Anyhowz let's get a movin'

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When I am walking in college I rarely do find myself shocked or amazed by the commotion around me. I try to block it out when I need to. Although the attack seems to be much stronger than my defence.

However all is not lost! Just the other day I saw something that made my smile light up and be thankful that my defense was weak. It was a girl who had started wearing the Hijab and Abaya. To be truthful I don't know her, but her actions alone have told me she seems dedicated to Islam and interested in learning.

Alhamdulilah! <3 But what also crossed my mind at that moment is that alot of sisters wear the Hijab and Abaya end up either distorting the purpose or removing it. Now I can't seem to uncross it.. :/

I know not everyone does this, but there are a handful. I am not in any way trying to blame sisters or criticise them, no I am trying to give a perspective that InshaAllah will help you all!

First off sisters, we need to question our intentions. Why are we doing this? Who is it for? If your answers are "i dunno" or "my parents" or "my boyfriend", 1) any intention that is not directed to gaining the pleasure of Allah(SWT) will crumble, eventually you give up because it's not 'worth' it. 2) Doing a good deed doesn't not mean you should carry on with a bad deed i.e your boyfriend telling you to. Therefore correct your intentions, go to the Qur'an read the verse about adorning the Hijab, understand it and love Islam. Once you love Islam InshaAllah you will wear it forever.

"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts from sin and not show of their adornment except only that which is apparent, and draw their headcovers over their necks and bosoms and not reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women (i.e., their sisters in Islam), or their female slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants free of physical desires, or small children who have no sense of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah altogether, O you Believers, in order that you may attain success.[An-Nur, 24:31]

I believe there is another verse in the Qur'an about Hijab so InshaAllah look into it. Also read books about why we wear Hijab, the importance of it, how it has helped others. Try reading revert stories aswell! This will help you to understand why Hijab is so important. InshaAllah. :)

Next I need to tell you all, what I have learnt. You might wanna sit down, grab some popcorn, get cosy, you'll be hearing alot of "what I have learnt" in my journeying through life...

I haven't been alive for very long so excuse me, but I realise people or me expect too much from life, they set themselves up to fall. Whether it's relying on your friend to be your 24/7 or your deen to be as strong as ever till you die. Don't worry sisters we have all been there. I guess we just need to understand that our sole purpose is to worship Allah therefore we should not allow ourselves to digress.

So if you wear the Hijab new or the Abaya, don't expect too much.  Don't expect your life to change dramatically or to have the same level of emaan in the next few years. A common problem that we all face is low emaan, and my best solution is to realise and appreciate that everything needs work. When you build up your emaan it might crumble but you just have to pick yourself up and build it again. Like a piece in a lego tower, or Jengo! Blocks can always be put on top of eachother! So lets get a' movin'! I am so going to beat you, I rock at Jengo!

Read Qur'an every night, pray Tahajjud every weekend, attend lectures, these should all help to build your emaan.

Also we must accept that if we fall then it is by the will of Allah (swt) therefore we must not complain or get depressed. Look to the future and all that it brings.

Lastly I would like to add that family and friends that are around new Hijabis should not pressurise them into wearing all black or wearing their Hijab a certain way. If you have an opinion gently suggest it but otherwise you should be careful about how you say things. Its natural for Hijabi to want to experiment with colours and styles, however sisters please bear in mind that the purpose of the Hijab is to cover our hair and neck, clothes should not expose our awrah and we should not be purposefully trying to attract attention. Anything that does not transgress those boundaries should be fine. It's okay to want to wear a nice patterned Hijab or nice coloured cardi!

Not everyone wants to wear All black, and thats fine! It might help to find new friends as well. A new Hijabi needs good influences therefore friends with similar interests will make them feel at ease, but friends that have no interest in Islam will deter you and may even make you take it off as we all know friends are very important.

Hadrat Abu Hurairah (r.a.a.) relates that the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) said: "A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you be friend." (Abu Daud and Tirmizi)

Urm. Sisters.. I have only realised now that all my posts say "ihsaan" instead of "insaan" >.< I'm so sorry!  you're all excellent ;) You know what I mean...right? ...well anyways..

Wasalaam >.>

Wednesday, 13 November 2013

RightStop?

Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,

While I was on the bus heading home I found that there was a considerable amount of noise. I mean this is typical on a bus, I am aware. However the source of the noise was not where you expected: boys. No rather it was a group of Hijabi girls. Now sisters I am aware the notion to be quiet like mice doesn't sit very well in modern, "feminist" society however we must be careful in what we are saying in public.

But I would like to point out that the reason why I did not expect girls to be making noise is because we as women are regarded as pearls and we have to protect our awrah , this however does not mean that boys are supposed to make noise, no it just means that as women we are supposed to have more modesty as we are , (lack of a better word) more alluring to men, that men are to us.

In general we, male or female should be conscious of what we portray Islam to be. Wearing a juba, or a Hijab identifies you with Islam therefore we as muslims should be careful and conscious of what we do.

This is just my observation...we as muslims are meant to portray peace and invite others to join therefore we must acknowledge that as muslims we are the representatives and what we do, people will take that as what a muslim is like. That means we have to behave in a certain way.  I know I know im generalising but there is an element of truth there right?

I'm aware sometimes we forget and that's normal so don't beat yourself up if you realise your just a little bit too loud, just turn it down a notch and maybe inform your friends aswell.. InshaAllah it should be in our heads that behaving abrasively is not how a muslim should behave like..

This goes on to ha'yaah (shame) we should be conscious of what we do in public and make sure we are not trying to draw attention to ourselves.

The Prophet (s) told us that eemaan (faith) has seventy branches, the highest of which is Laa ilaaha illa Allaah and the lowest of which is removing something harmful from the road, and he added, “Hayaa’ (having a sense of shame) is part of eemaan.” When we study hayaa’ in Islam, we begin to see clearly that its definition goes far beyond mere “modesty,” as it is often translated, but it includes a more broad definition that is probably more adequately translated as “a sense of shame.”

-http://islamww.com/bb/index.php?showtopic=142

Related sources- www.mansoorah.com

JazakAllah Khairan.

Wasalaam

Tuesday, 12 November 2013

Enlightenment

Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,
I have a poem I would like to share. I wrote this poem a while ago... I am not saying I am an amazing poet, I'm just a poet, nothing special. So read it if your interested, if not keep posted for my next post!

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The light that is cast upon me
Is it real?
Is it casting light?... Or darkness
Is it bringing me out of the depth or pulling me further
The glow ,gleam
Of its light
Is it beautiful
Or is it that which I do not see
The darkness that surrounds me
In my mind
Or what shaytan left behind?
The face which I see
Beauty
Tranquility
Or concealed
Facade
Of which I cannot see
The sounds
Of my ears
Are they real
Or is it that which I long to hear?
Words spoken.
Yet they are broken.

The life I live.
For myself.
Nooone else?
Yet my heart
Stops every moment
I hear Allah.
Proof of creation?
Proof of creator!
The sun that I see is it the same you see
The imaan I feel
Please tell me you feel that too.
My hearts changed
By Allah I never want in
On what I had before
For what I have now is certainly worth more.
Those questions I never answered
Those answers that never made sense
Ya Allah what you have granted me.
Is peace in my heart for eternity.

I feel the love
For the prophets and
Gratitude
For everythng
You give me
Every day.
That peace
Do you see it?
Can you smell that sweet honeycomb?
Of imaan?
Of ibadah?
Of love for Allah ?
Do you hear what I hear?
The words I hear.
The heart I have
Now
The love
I have now
Feel what I feel
For what I feel
Is conquering
All of which you feel.
The only difference is mine is real.

Do you feel that breeze of
Love'
The siren of the akhira?
The tweet of the skies?
The glass of heaven'
The immortal eyes?
Do you see the world
In its form
Or do you see that which does not conform?
The fire of hell every time
Its warm?
The sweet honey of heaven?
The blessings of Allah?
Do you see which I see?
Do you hear what I hear?
Do you realise now,
That life is bound.
The akhira
Is profound
And everyone
Will taste death
Do you see your life flashing before you'?
Cries of repentence
Too little too late
Be honest and follow the nabi saw before your date.

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Sorry for the errors! There may well be grammar mistakes! Be cautioned grammar lovers! <3 LOVE ya'll
Wasalaam

Sunday, 10 November 2013

EyesOfNobody

Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,

I should really be asleep right now. However I have words to write. Do you ever find that your identity is clouded?

Or sometimes mixed into other identities that you didn't want? Or maybe you did want... The real question I am posing to ya'll is what is our identity?

What should we be known as? The "fashionista" , "pious" , "geek' , "pretty" common tags that we are labeled as. Sometimes I get real sick of tags and not just on my clothes!

Those tags that seem to be printed in capitals on your forehead but yet when you face the mirror you never see? Well heres the thing sisters, whether you or I like it or not, humans have to label, its innate I presume.

Therefore we have to question what we want to be associated with? Is it makeup, fashion, looks, intelligence we want to be our status? Or should we want our Deen to be glowing for us with no words but action?

Sisters, inevitably we fall into a cycle of materialism where we chase a westernized perception of the ideal, yet I find myself questioning whether that's even real? I'm here with you sisters we all fall, but I want to help you up, dont chase the money or the makeup rather dress your soul with illuminating cloths of knowledge and ibadah.

Don't you feel empty when you dress to impress instead of dressing to please Allah? Its not a judgement it's  a question, I am asking to ask yourselves, deep inside. Do you feel that your entire life, from the minute you entered and cried with delight in begging your Lord to enter this world to minute you die when you see the Angel of death taking your soul, that you have purpose when you engage in frivolous acts that have no meaning? Now sisters I would take offence if you even think I am trying to judge or hurt you, I want you to think and ask yourself, that's all, and if you can't answer, maybe thats your answer right there.

I admit it's not all bad... but its to the extent where we sacrifice our Deen, don't. Take stand. Even if it's just you on that stand, ride it all the way home, I would.

Wasalaam

Saturday, 2 November 2013

ThroughTheLookingGlass

Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,

Today was an interesting day. It started off rather odd. I normally wake up and get ready which I did today, like every other day, but before I left my house I started thinking more about how my life is, the good, the bad, the ugly. I realised life is how you see it.

If you take tinted blue shades that sparkle you'll see life in blue and sparkle but if you wear dirty specs that are broken your vision will be broken. Its all about perception. I admit life deals a hard hand, and sometimes poker faces just don't work, and you end up letting the cards pile ontop of you. But it's only as bad as you think. I remember a Hamlet quote: There is nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so (ACT 2) and to be honest that's true!

Do you know why? If you allow yourself to be depressed about a problem in your life, you wont see the good in your life. Alhamdulilah for everything we own and the bodies we have been given.

Let me take a serious example, if a person in your family has passed away I understand it's hard to move on and remaim steadfast but InshaAllah we should try to.

This is because 1) it is a test and a way to gain closeness to Allah (SWT) 2) we all have to die, the time has been written down, therefore we have to accept Allahs decree and understand Allah knows best. 3) It should remind us of our purpose and we should change ourselves to be the person we want to be before we too, die.

Or let's say you failed your exams despite trying your utter best. We should understand that it was Allahs decree and not in our power, perhaps Allah has a better plan? Istikara may be an option here if for instance you failed your A Levels and have no clue what to do. Dont become depressed though because a door that closes always leads to another that opens. Look at the free time you have now, to help your parents, to study Islam and go to lectures. Always look at the positives of every bad situation! :)

In this way we do not allow Shaytan to pick at us and become depressed.

What is key and the main point of this article is, in every bad situation we need to remind ourselves that it is Allahs plan and we should be happy with that!

JazakAllah Khair for reading!

Wasalaam