Saturday, 28 May 2016

Sorry for what?

For people who are extremely apologetic, anxious, or just soft natured people I just want to say: you're great! We need amazing people like yourselves in this horrid world! 

But amazing as you are... Stop being sorry for everything.
I was reading a story about a guy who knew a woman who felt like she should be sorry for everything. When anything bad happened at work she said sorry (it wasn't even her fault) when someone hurt themselves she said sorry. And what that did was make her extremely low in her esteem: she blamed herself for everything, naturally it makes a person feel down and change the way they see themselves. So no don't be sorry all the time! 

Being sorry all the time makes it hard to stand up for yourself, so if you were in a situation where someone is wronging you ,you wouldn't say anything because you're always sorry. 

Just the other day a guy was really impatient and while I was topping my oyster up he said 'the machine is gonna go you know' and I felt it was really rude, I was just about to top up he just had to wait a bit. So I said it: I told him to wait. And for me that's weird because I don't really retaliate to people. But I realised sometimes it's needed, sometimes we shouldn't be sorry! 




Tuesday, 17 May 2016

Flying with Geese

I was watching an informational video about geese today. It talked of how geese fly together; how when one is hurt, two geese stay behind to look after it. And when they are flying the ones behind honk to motivate and encourage the others to keep going. 

It's so weird how animals can have more sense than humans. And animals can't reflect or ponder like us, yet they can understand the importance of helping one another. In society it seems like no one wants to help eachother anymore- we all tend to look out for ourselves. It's fine, it's fair I suppose: we don't rely on others and we don't get disappointed.

But I think it shouldn't be that we walk on others to get to places or would deny others help if they needed or wanted it from us. 


Monday, 16 May 2016

Letting go

Letting go isn't easy- sometimes we don't let go but circumstances are such that we are forced to. 

I suppose over the past couple of months I realised absence does really help with letting go. Moving on with your life, yeah you still remember sometimes but you just keep going. That's what I feel like I'm doing, I'm just moving. I just have to keep going. Even if I don't want to, even if I'm not ready.

After a while you come to a time when you can look back and laugh at how things have changed, how much you've changed. 

A lot of the time I feel like I'm in a bubble surrounded by words around me trying to define me and people just zooming past like a scene in a American high school movie where the new kid is walking past tons of students not knowing what's going on. 

I suppose when you let go- you feel slightly lost, displaced.

(I was just thinking about some stuff, I don't know if I made sense, sorry)

Tuesday, 3 May 2016

Nars Bars: Video

Very interesting video below discussing narcissism and Instagram, he also discusses narcissism in general which in today's society is very important. What I found particularly intriguing was that he said narcissism has always existed and it has not suddenly materialised, which often we can forget- blaming social media for our self-absorption when in fact the tools of own self obsession have merely changed in accordance with the technological advances in society.

At the end of the video he says that it is more worthwhile to post things that you have created or something that is identified with you to help to value yourself, rather than being valued by your face(which is no talent im afraid) . I also think that it is important to stop identifying things and products as a means to value or being accepted in society, because it is not these things that make up ourselves rather our character and personality. That being said it is not bad to want to be acknowledged for things you have made or achievements just too much is me good.


Also to add, while I'm not perfect I try and refrain from using social media especially Instagram. I feel it nevers help my self esteem or confidence and I feel like I am always posting things for others. I try and do things (posting, writing) for my own happiness regardless of what others think, whether or not I'm an amazing writer or even if I have good things to say, I write because I want to, and that's all the reason I need.